What effective questions are actually trying to discover
How big are the gaps between your core values and your actions?
How long will you push towards a worthy goal until you give up?
How hard is it to get you to change your mind when you're wrong?
How much do you learn from failing?
How long does it take you to learn something new?
How hard is it for you to let someone else take the lead?
How much do you care?
The rest is merely commentary, drama and storyline filler. Our work is to help people author a better story...period. Build relationships and/or get to their bedrock.
[questions thanks to Seth Godin]